"Empty Cradle"

I found this poem and really interested in the meaning and wanted to share this
"Beyond grief lies hope, and beyond darkness may lie a life of purpose and meaning"

I would like to dedicate this poem to all those who lost their babies.... what they wanted from others;

I wanted them to say, “ I’m sorry about your loss” instead of trying to be upbeat
I wanted them to hug me more and to say to me, “I know this is tragic. It’s okay to be sad and cry.” They didn’t have to be sad but just respect my sadness. It would be nice if they would send flowers or cards because that’s what people do when you lose someone. They would be acknowledging that we lost a child.

I want them to bring up Adam like they would any baby who died, to come to a memorial service, to weep with me. I don’t want Adam to be forgotten by anyone. I don’t want time to take away the existence of this child.
I wanted people who have gone through this to talk with me at great length and to make me feel I wasn’t the only woman who didn’t bounce back.

What would have helped me would have been for someone to talk about the baby as a baby. I lost a BABY! To say to me, “Mrs. English, you have lost a child. You are going through grieving. Here is what to expect. Here are some guidelines. Here is a support group.”

The Art of Writing

I found that writing qualitative research is a matter of “playing the games”, a matter of playing with the words and language used and choice of right vocabulary. The style of discussion or interpretative writing in advanced analysis is different from reporting a finding as well as writing a literature. I always find myself stuck in writing my interpretation, stuck of not wanting to write in a style of reporting findings and writing literature reviews. In writing the discussion, I am supposed to critique or explain or enhance the findings and not reporting them. In interpretation too, I am supposed to support my interpretation with the literature but not criticizing or merely writing the relevant literatures.

I found that writing is a matter of the style or a matter of sentence structure. For example, there is a different of writing

They reported that they were always treated as sole caretakers of the parents and some appeared to become the breadwinners for other siblings....VS...Thus, the participants felt that they are not being treated fairly by the parents and siblings as they always have to be the caretaker......

My conclusion, learn the language of qualitative interpretative language and there are differences between interpretation and description and reporting findings and writing a literature!!!!

My beloved hubby recently post in his FB, the more you write, the more you get confused...To be honest, I can truly reflect and understand that statement my dear, but take one step at a time, sikit2, lama2 jadi bukit and the "confusion" should be treated as a catalyst to move on!