Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Quote from A freind's FB status

Why Being Single Is Great

You get the whole bed
You don't have to make an effort
You don't have to worry about hurting
You don't have to worry about buying valentines crap
You have freedom, to choose
Not having to tell someone where you are
Complete control
Chance to experiment with who you are & what you like
Eat what you want
Do what you want, when you want
A chance to bond with friends
Loneliness hurts less

Jodoh

Walau digenggam kuat, andai ia bukan milik kita, ia terlepas jua. Walau ditolak ke tepi, andai ia untuk kita, ia mendatang jua. Itulah namanaya Jodoh. (pepatah cinta Islami- Ashadi Zain)
Jodoh adalah keajaiban yang Tuhan saja yang Maha Tahu

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Facebook status by a friend on 16092011



"When you're single, people ask about boyfriend, You have a fiance, they ask about wedding? You get married, they ask when wil you get pregnant?You already have one, they ask when is little brother or sister coming? When you divorce they ask why? If you move on, they ask why so quickly? People will never stop asking, if you're proud of who you are and you dont care what pple think about u"

Facebook status by a dear friend on 20092011



"I think being single may not always a bad thing! What is bad is giving up hope on finding that someone special who at this moment could be 'betapok' huhuhu :D. But then again, why should I go thru all the trouble just to change my status from single to 'not single'? By being single, I dont have to ask someone's opinion before I do something to mess up my own room, my credit report or even my life! Life is great, Alhamdulillah :-)...soar like an eagle, the sky is the limit..."

Thursday, January 6, 2011

salam jumaat...


dear all,
all this while, I've been listening to people giving a negative acronym of PHD as permanent head damage or partially head damage....but today I found out that the positive repertoires of PHD which are

PhD as Pengalaman Hidup Duniawi
PhD as Pedoman Hidup
PhD as Perjuangan Hidup Diri ku

short one to share and reflects!!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

if I were to compare...

Salam, we went to parents info session for Farhan's next year pre-primary. In the briefing about maths, the teacher mentioned the importance of the PP kids to know, about more and less, big and bigger, long and longest and she jokingly said, the kids always want to have the biggest, the largest, wanted to be the tallest and the smartest etc.
That is common among primary kids to be always good, want to be the best but doing PhD also shows the 'true color' of competitive nature of so called "malay" people. We like to challenge and we always want to show that we "enduring" the hardest things while doing our research as if no one feel the same hardship. Then, we like to compare, but what is there to compare, PhD is totally unique to a person's project, we don't have exam, so called standard exam to compare how much do we score compare to A, B and C...yet a friend was telling me, bila dah abis sangat tak ada benda nak compare, to the extend, those who have the same supervisor, boleh compare lagi, dahi supervisor lebih berkerut masa jumpa si a or masa jumpa si b, hahahaah that is so funny!!!! we should be proud of our friend who do better than us, and push them more to be much better and not trying to pull them down. Then only can we proudly say that we have the mentality of developed country with first class attitude. InsyaAllah, this is a reminder for myself too, who sometimes 'alpa' and 'terlepas pandang' on certain thing. In conclusion, PhD is so unique, it is not for us to judge and compare an apple with an orange, it is totally fifferent thing !

If I were to compare my situation with other PhD students or couple...My husband is also studying, we only have one scholarship and we have 2 small kids aged 6 and 4. With limited finance, both are busy thinking about PhD, I still have to cook for hubby and the kids. We could not afford to eat outside. If I were too lazy, I can simply cook nasi goreng for hubby, but what abt my kids, they demands macam2, sometimes they want soup, sometimes, they want eggs, sometimes they want bla, bla, bla.....so, small kids and big kids are different. The grown up kids, they can eat what you eat. We also can't afford to send the kids to child care. So we struggle with peo having to take care of the kids as we are both studying unlike those with spouse who can concentrate taking care of the kids and the house chores.Going back to financial issue, having small kids, we are relieve, school fees is way too cheap compared to those who have a grown up, high school kids, they have to pay double, triple, quadruple quintuple or triple double you called it. Another thing is if your husband smoke, that will suck up yr allowance money just like no one business babe...so, moral of the story, every person is having his or her own challenges and every family is struggling with different things in life, therefore, it is not fair to judge and compare, to condemn and finger pointing or even to 'blame' peo if they can't endure the PhD journey towards the end, people have different level of resiliency and again different dugaan and cabaran, but one thing for sure, everything is in Allah's hand hence pray for the best of yourself and your family.

Monday, November 22, 2010

enduring...

For all my friends enduring the journey of phd...

I have often dreamed
Of a far off place
Where a hero's welcome...Would be waiting for me
Where the crowds will cheer
When they see my face
And a voice keeps saying
This is where I'm meant to be
I'll be there someday
I can go the distance
I will find my way
If I can be strong
I know ev'ry mile
Will be worth my while
When I go the distance
I'll be right where I belong
Down an unknown road
To embrace my fate
Though the road may wander
It will lead me to you
And a thousand years
Would be worth the wait
It may take a lifetime
But somehow
I'll see it through
And I won't look back
I can go the distance
And I'll stay on track
No I won't accept defeat
It's an uphill slope
But I won't lose hope
Till I go the distance
And my journey is complete
But to look beyond the glory is the hardest part
For a hero's strength is measured by his heart
Like a shooting star
I can go the distance
I will search the world
I will face its harms
I don't care how far
I can go the distance
Till I find my hero's welcome
Waiting in your arms...I will search the world
I will face its harms
TillI find my hero's welcome