Frustrations and Rejections

Along my journey, I experienced some rejections and frustration with one of the major one came from unwilling singles to be interviewed, I have no intention to force them, after all this is totally voluntary. In our culture, people are being polite, they won't say no straight to your face but they will ask you a lot of questions and ask you to look for someone else first, if still you can't find any, then you go back to them. One even asked me, "why not interview successful women? nothing interesting about singles?" They became very philosophical in in their answer, very superficial, and go around the bushes, I know straight away they are hesitant and won't be willing to share and being sincere in their sharing. I asked myself the big W, WHY? Do they have things to hide and felt that I'm trying to dig their secret; do they feel insecure, inadequate and incomplete, just because they are not married? And interesting fact I found is that, the higher that person is, I mean education wise, the more difficult for me to approach them. Again WHY? I am expecting that people who have PhD can 'easily' participate because they know that I'm doing this for the sake of my PhD but they are making it difficult for me, so, again, WHY?
Lesson I learned and reflect a lot:
*Hari ini hari orang (minta tolong), next time hari kita pulak
*If you want people to respect you, you must respects others
*If we want people to be kind to us, we must be kind to others