Quote from A freind's FB status

Why Being Single Is Great

You get the whole bed
You don't have to make an effort
You don't have to worry about hurting
You don't have to worry about buying valentines crap
You have freedom, to choose
Not having to tell someone where you are
Complete control
Chance to experiment with who you are & what you like
Eat what you want
Do what you want, when you want
A chance to bond with friends
Loneliness hurts less

Jodoh

Walau digenggam kuat, andai ia bukan milik kita, ia terlepas jua. Walau ditolak ke tepi, andai ia untuk kita, ia mendatang jua. Itulah namanaya Jodoh. (pepatah cinta Islami- Ashadi Zain)
Jodoh adalah keajaiban yang Tuhan saja yang Maha Tahu

Facebook status by a friend on 16092011

"When you're single, people ask about boyfriend, You have a fiance, they ask about wedding? You get married, they ask when wil you get pregnant?You already have one, they ask when is little brother or sister coming? When you divorce they ask why? If you move on, they ask why so quickly? People will never stop asking, if you're proud of who you are and you dont care what pple think about u"

Facebook status by a dear friend on 20092011

"I think being single may not always a bad thing! What is bad is giving up hope on finding that someone special who at this moment could be 'betapok' huhuhu :D. But then again, why should I go thru all the trouble just to change my status from single to 'not single'? By being single, I dont have to ask someone's opinion before I do something to mess up my own room, my credit report or even my life! Life is great, Alhamdulillah :-)...soar like an eagle, the sky is the limit..."

salam jumaat...

dear all,

all this while, I've been listening to people giving a negative acronym of PHD as permanent head damage or partially head damage....but today I found out that the positive repertoires of PHD which are

PhD as Pengalaman Hidup Duniawi

PhD as Pedoman Hidup

PhD as Perjuangan Hidup Diri ku

short one to share and reflects!!

if I were to compare...

Salam, we went to parents info session for Farhan's next year pre-primary. In the briefing about maths, the teacher mentioned the importance of the PP kids to know, about more and less, big and bigger, long and longest and she jokingly said, the kids always want to have the biggest, the largest, wanted to be the tallest and the smartest etc.

That is common among primary kids to be always good, want to be the best but doing PhD also shows the 'true color' of competitive nature of so called "malay" people. We like to challenge and we always want to show that we "enduring" the hardest things while doing our research as if no one feel the same hardship. Then, we like to compare, but what is there to compare, PhD is totally unique to a person's project, we don't have exam, so called standard exam to compare how much do we score compare to A, B and C...yet a friend was telling me, bila dah abis sangat tak ada benda nak compare, to the extend, those who have the same supervisor, boleh compare lagi, dahi supervisor lebih berkerut masa jumpa si a or masa jumpa si b, hahahaah that is so funny!!!! we should be proud of our friend who do better than us, and push them more to be much better and not trying to pull them down. Then only can we proudly say that we have the mentality of developed country with first class attitude. InsyaAllah, this is a reminder for myself too, who sometimes 'alpa' and 'terlepas pandang' on certain thing. In conclusion, PhD is so unique, it is not for us to judge and compare an apple with an orange, it is totally fifferent thing !

If I were to compare my situation with other PhD students or couple...My husband is also studying, we only have one scholarship and we have 2 small kids aged 6 and 4. With limited finance, both are busy thinking about PhD, I still have to cook for hubby and the kids. We could not afford to eat outside. If I were too lazy, I can simply cook nasi goreng for hubby, but what abt my kids, they demands macam2, sometimes they want soup, sometimes, they want eggs, sometimes they want bla, bla, bla.....so, small kids and big kids are different. The grown up kids, they can eat what you eat. We also can't afford to send the kids to child care. So we struggle with peo having to take care of the kids as we are both studying unlike those with spouse who can concentrate taking care of the kids and the house chores.Going back to financial issue, having small kids, we are relieve, school fees is way too cheap compared to those who have a grown up, high school kids, they have to pay double, triple, quadruple quintuple or triple double you called it. Another thing is if your husband smoke, that will suck up yr allowance money just like no one business babe...so, moral of the story, every person is having his or her own challenges and every family is struggling with different things in life, therefore, it is not fair to judge and compare, to condemn and finger pointing or even to 'blame' peo if they can't endure the PhD journey towards the end, people have different level of resiliency and again different dugaan and cabaran, but one thing for sure, everything is in Allah's hand hence pray for the best of yourself and your family.

enduring...

For all my friends enduring the journey of phd...

I have often dreamed

Of a far off place

Where a hero's welcome...Would be waiting for me

Where the crowds will cheer

When they see my face

And a voice keeps saying

This is where I'm meant to be

I'll be there someday

I can go the distance

I will find my way

If I can be strong

I know ev'ry mile

Will be worth my while

When I go the distance

I'll be right where I belong

Down an unknown road

To embrace my fate

Though the road may wander

It will lead me to you

And a thousand years

Would be worth the wait

It may take a lifetime

But somehow

I'll see it through

And I won't look back

I can go the distance

And I'll stay on track

No I won't accept defeat

It's an uphill slope

But I won't lose hope

Till I go the distance

And my journey is complete

But to look beyond the glory is the hardest part

For a hero's strength is measured by his heart

Like a shooting star

I can go the distance

I will search the world

I will face its harms

I don't care how far

I can go the distance

Till I find my hero's welcome

Waiting in your arms...I will search the world

I will face its harms

TillI find my hero's welcome

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